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Friday, July 9, 2010

Stuck on you


Dear Didi,
I am seriously crushing on this girl at my school. She is perfect and I think about her all the time! We use to hang out but lately, she has stopped calling and texting me. I thought she was interested in me and I was about to ask her out but then this all happened. It's been a month since I've talked to her and I'm always wondering if she is seeing someone, hence maybe that is the reason why she stopped talking to me. I want to get over her, but I can't. I feel like I'm going to be stuck on her for a while. Is there any hope for me and her? Or should I move on? Thanks!
Unrequited Love

Dear Unrequited Love,
We as humans have the ability to love and crush on others. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't. Try, try and don't try again. If first you don't succeed, try again..but that's it. The rule of thumb is that you only try an x amount of times before you should move on. Before you jump into thinking she is taken, weigh out the options. Maybe the timing wasn't right, maybe she's busy, or maybe she just wants you as a friend. Timing is important, I know couples who knew each other for years but never dated because the stars were just not aligned for them at the moment. If she is busy, let her have her space. No girl wants a guy constantly bombarding her with massive texts/phone calls. You don't want to come off as being clingy. Also, if she just wants to be friends, respect her decision. It's better to have her in your life, even if it's just as a friend then not in your life at all. Try to call her up and if she doesn't respond then sadly, you need to try to move on. Don't ever wait on someone who makes it clear that they don't want to be with you. I know it's hard to move on because I had a crush on a guy for three years, that's right, THREE years. If I could move on, you can too. Who knows? Maybe she just wasn't the right one for you. For every guy, there will always be a girl for him. Instead of feeling defeated, learn from it. Did she make you a better person? If she did, then you really didn't lose anything.
Much <3,
Didi

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